TRUST ISSUES

Before committing to a serious relationship one of the most important factors that you need  to have established is trust. Without trust the relationship can never move forward. Most people have problems with trust either from observing a rocky relationship at home with their parents, or tproblems in their own past relationships. If you are going be with someone new you have to leave the past behind you. You cant let problems from an old relationship carry over into a new one. It should be a fresh start and an oppurtunity to try to find real love. Most times when someone has a problem with trust they tend to have a guard up and aren't to quick to let people in, and show the person they really are.You can not love someone if you dont trust them, its impossible the two go hand and hand. If you have a problem with trust you have to deal with them as soon as possible. Lack of trust can bring on problems with respect, honesty, and infidelity. So before committing to a serious relationship please make sure you have a complete understanding, on were you stand with your ability to trust and be trusted. That conversation can help you lay the ground work for the foundation of a long lasting relationship, and hopefully a beautiful marriage.


                                                                                                             Tavaris & Chiquita

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Chiquita Jones

Chiquita Jones: SHOW A NICE GESTURE!?! LADIES.. TONIGHT FIX YOUR MAN A DELICIOUS DINNER AND MAKE SURE TO TELL HIM HOW MUCH YOU APPRECIATE HIM TODAY.. ITS THE SMALL THINGS THAT MATTERS;-)

KEEPING THIS THANG FRESH

Sometimes in relationships we forget how important it is to keep your partner interested. What made them fall in love with you in the first place? Well I can remember when my husband and I first met. He would come into my place place of work and I would blush so hard. I finally confessed to a mutual friend that I was interested, and found out he was too. We began to date and became really close.One of the things that really made me attracted to him was how he kept himself well groomed and how he was so well mannered. Every date he would open doors for me, and believe it or not he prayed with me everytime we got in the car together. His behavior was very different for me. But something that really caught my eye was how in love he was with God. We were both 20yrs old so this was very unusual for someone his age, and I loved that about him. As for me, I would always make sure my hair was on point, my nails were done, and everything about me was well put together from head to toe. I cooked for him and we enjoyed really long and interesting conversations often. This is how we grew to love each other and we both had been missing these things in past relationships. I can honestly say that we still do all these things for each other after 5 yrs of being together. Although we dont have a perfect marriage, we still compliment each other, flirt, talk on the phone, go on dates and still do all the things we did that made us fall in love with one another. The point we are trying to make is, some people treat their relationships like video games. They work so hard to make to it the final level, and after losing couple times and having to start over, they finally win. Then the game is over and you no longer feel the need to put that same effort into the relationship because you won your mates heart. You have to continue to take those same extra steps you used to take when you first started dating. Call each other just to see how their day is going so far, open doors for your lady. Go out on dates and flirt and compliment each other. These things keeps your relationship fresh and keeps you both interested.


                                                                                             The Jones'
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SHACKING BEFORE JUMPING THE BROOM

In the majority of today's serious relationships, a common trend is to move in with each other. This is usually the last step before couples decide to get married. While this is common, there are alot of Pros and Cons to "Shacking" before marriage. My wife and I moved in together a year and a half before we tied the knot. We enjoyed the comforts of going to bed together, and waking up to each other. We learned each other's habits both good and bad, and it really brought us closer together. While staying together we grew a strong relationship with God.  Through developing this relationship with God, we learned how shacking can be more of a problem for your relationship than you think. Sleeping in a bed together, and having sex in that bed hendered alot of our blessings. It also welcomed alot of strain and stress to our relationship. Before we moved in together we had fights and disagreements like any other couple, but as soon as we moved in the fighting became more frequent and more intense. We had stress on our jobs that came from out of nowhere and, we had issues with our parents. It was like one thing after another constantly attacking us because we were being hard headed and not listening to God. Most people that shack up think they are just dealing with everyday stresses, but they dont know that alot of that stress comes from disobedience to God. So if you are considering shacking before jumping the broom, our advice is to you is rethink your decsion. This choice could save you from a lot of stress on relationship and your life.

                                                                                                                The Jones'

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